post-it number two:
dear self.
if you’re going to give another woman a compliment,
first check your complimentary motives.
–
is my complimentary attitude
motived by self-deprecating thoughts? am i muddling the joy of encouraging another woman. just to echo my own self-discontent within myself? to give my insecurities even more air to breathe.
is my complimentary attitude
motivated by jealousy? am i fuddling the joy of encouraging another woman. with the tricky and undergirded tone of a descending compliment? to give my accusations a passive and judgmental outlet.
–
learn yourself. to not taint a compliment
with the undertone of self-deprecation or judgment.
learn it today.
center the roots of your identity in the early morning.
[let yourself feel such freedom.]
so your compliments will prove genuine encouragement.
[within yourself and to others.]
let the joytone of a compliment resonate deep. and
then wake up, and learn it’s depths again tomorrow.
